If you haven’t guessed by my logo or the name of this blog, I am an introvert. One of the most important things I learned in college was that it’s okay to be an introvert. Thank goodness for the career planning class with the personality test. Up until that time, I was under the impression that I was weird. Okay, maybe I’m still weird, but now I like it. Here are a few things you may not know:


1. I’ve coined my own phrase: social hangover. It applies to the way I feel after being at a party with lots and lots of people. My head hurts. My mind races. I feel a little nauseous. It’s not that I don’t like people, it’s just that they wear me out. Small doses are better than big doses.

2. After a whole day of being around people, I NEED alone time. It’s how I recharge. This is when I process everything. If I don’t get to be alone with my thoughts every day, they don’t go away and they disturb my concentration. And my sleep.

3. If you hear me say something, or read something I’ve written, please know that it is only a miniscule percentage of the words that have been floating around my head. I feel like a human funnel most of the time, processing thousands of words, thoughts, ideas and images, and summing them up into only a few words or sentences.

4. I like listening more than talking. Just because I’m not talking in a group setting, doesn’t mean I’m not paying attention. If you look at my face, you will see my expression change with the tone of the conversation. It’s how I participate.

5. Social media has been great for me. It’s the best of both worlds – I can have lots of friends and interact with all of them all while sitting alone at my computer. And I can walk away whenever I want to, without worrying about being rude or hurting anyone’s feelings.

If you, too, are an introvert, I hope these musings will help you feel like you’re not alone (oh, I intended that pun). If you are a much more common extrovert, I thank you for understanding that my lack of excitement about your upcoming party is not personal. I hope you have lots of fun. Maybe we can have coffee soon. Just us.

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13 Responses to Confessions of an Introvert

  1. HeidiRenee says:

    What a great list, shared on fb – thanks so much. I too had NO idea that it was okay to be an introvert, but I didn’t find out until after I was married for years. I was so exhausted through my school years trying to keep up my ‘outgoing’ nature… sigh.

  2. Ben Gray says:

    I discovered too late that I was an introvert, I was already in full time ministry where, obviously, the entire job was to be a “people person.” It was absolutely devastating to my emotions. After 7 and a half years I changed vocations where I’m now an IT technician and it’s _literally_ a dream job. Soooo much alone time sprinkled with human interaction.

    Great post. Enjoyed your other writing too.

    • Betsy says:

      I’m glad you like the post, Ben, and I’m glad that you have found a dream job. I sat on this post for several weeks trying to decide whether it would be relevant to anyone but me. It’s nice to know that it is.

  3. I’m not an introvert, Betsy, but I do like to label myself the least social social person you will ever meet.

    I love people and being around them, but sometimes I still dread it, and it can wear me out too!

    Love how well-put your thoughts are here (especially the human funnel part…especially considering that I’m a woman of MANY words).

  4. I’m featuring this post tomorrow at Feature Friday Free-for-All, Betsy! Thanks for sharing!

    Feel free to grab a button! : )

  5. Yes! I was so glad when I found out that there is such a thing as an introvert! It was quite reassuring…

    • Betsy says:

      Gwen, somehow knowing that it’s okay to be an introvert makes it easier to find ways to turn it into a strength. I’m glad you found it reassuring, too.

  6. Tiffany says:

    Hello Me! – This is who I am.

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